Dealing with Vampiric Encounters

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The Intrigue of the Vampire Mythos

Women swoon. Children cry. Men scream in fright.

Placing the VAMPIRE label  on something or someone causes a myriad of  images. Creatures that are
ravenous predators, evil harmful killers who prey on innocent victims.Sensual

This class will shed light on the seduction vampires have  held over
humanity for centuries.The lore of the life sucking creatures prey on humans has existed since humanity walked on 2 legs.

The Medieval times presented vampires as walking corpses most likely die to disease and pestilence. It wasn’t until The Gothic Era that the more romanticized version appeared.

The traditional vampire is portrayed as the reanimated body of a
deceased person believed to come from the grave at night and suck
the blood of the person asleep. They can be repelled by sunlight
and/or garlic and can be killed by a wooden stake to the heart.

In recent times, we have even further glamorized vampires with such
shows as True Blood, What We do Within the Shadows, Buffy,
Twilight and of course countless romance/ fantasy series.the movie,Nosferatu has recently been remade for a third time. It’s been called erotic, sensual, eerie, and sexual.

                                                                  Once again our culture is enraptured of a vampire. Women are swooning, men are aghast, parents are appalled. Let’s find out why,shall we?

Vampire play engages our most primal spirit. Hunger, sex and
surrender all rolled into one sexy archetype. According to folklore, vampires feed upon the life force of another
being whether it be animal, fish or human. The blood may be the draw.  For others, it is the darkness, romance or spiritual. The
most primal energy of another creature. Having the power of life and death within one’s being encompasses true power, especially if you can return one to life – even a strange distorted life. The mysterious creature lurking in the shadows, forbidden, thrilling and sexual. Whether we like to acknowledge it or not, all humans are drawn to the dark.It intrigues and terrifies us at the same time.

 I recently was honored to present this class for 7DOD online. To watch the online class version, please visit  7DOD Vampire Play

Engaging in the vampire fantasies within our fetish scenes can denote many paths.

It will need to be done safely and consensually.
But role playing vampire in our sessions can have serious
consequences that we need to be aware of. Biting a client can break the
fluid boundaries. Pricking veins for blood draws can create unsafe
connections and unwanted connections between you and client.

Now for the disclaimer:
I am not a medical professional. In this class, I will not provide full
education on blood borne pathogens,STDs transmitted via bodily
fluid exchange or consumption, or the multiple ways to do the wide
variety of blood play.

Please make sure before you engage in fluid play, you educate
yourself and your play partner on the risks. Knowledge in Power , especially when life in concerned.

Take a first aid class, or multiples, to gain knowledge in how to prevent permanent harm.

 In this blog,I will discuss:

Different forms of vampire play

                                                                    How we can engage in the fantasy within our fetish scenes safely and consensually.

Fantasy vs Reality

Energy play

Biting Realistically

Small blood draws with needles or finger pricks

I consider needle play a different beast from vampire play. Needles and
scalpels can be used in this play but are not necessary. They create their own synergy in style and technique.

Your life fluid tastes so delicious!

Possible Forms of Vampire Play

Psychic or Pranic Vampire: Any person who enjoys actively and regularly absorbing and manipulating human kinetic energy in order to maintain their own emotional,sexual and spiritual well-being.

They can do this via touch or distance.This type of vampire is very popular within New Age and Pagan communities. I have a separate blog on this topic.

Sexual Vampire: Any person that feeds specifically on the energy generated from intimate relationships, heavy sexual release and orgasms.

Sanguine Vampire: Vampires who take blood from a partner and use it as a focus for gaining energy. The blood is the main component.

Vampire Play Safety Protocols

Within our scenes, the desire is usually for actual sanguine play. Blood play does not have to incorporate vampire play.
When one thinks of actual vampire blood play, biting is the activity one usually brings to mind.

It is the image we all see in the media. Cutting , scalpel play, and small blood draws are more associated with blood play.

However they are activities that can safely facilitate vampire play incorporating a blood component.

As this is an overview
class , I will cover each with beginners information. Truly each one is
its own in-depth instruction.

Be aware of not only the health risks to all involved parties but the
emotional and spiritual risks. The type of vampire play I engage in
differs from person to person. The more blood/energy involved, the
deeper and more permanent the connection.
CONSENT is paramount in blood play.

Prepping skin prior to opening it is essential for scene. This will
minimize the risk of bacteria or germs entering the area.
Likewise afterwards, make sure wound is cleaned and covered.
Prevent infection in start and finish. Use 70% or above alcohol to
clean.

Implements such as scalpels, needles and finger pricks must be
single use, sterile and disposed of properly. Do not use knives, razor
blades or vampire gloves. These items tend to be hard to sterilize to
the level needed.

Adrenal spikes can occur with blood play {we tend to fight or flight
when we see blood esp our own}. Make sure you are aware of blood
pressure, heart issues and other possible health conditions of your
donor that may be affected by blood play.

Learn your basic anatomy esp the circulatory system. You will
need to know what major arteries to stay away from. This will
also benefit you in other types of play.
Choose areas that have less major arteries such as breasts,
shoulder blades, buttocks. For a start, here is link to circulatory system.

Vampire Blood Play activities

 Biting {Odaxelagnia}

Biting is the classic vampire way! It is also known as Odaxelagnia.
The eroticism of Dracula slowly hypnotizing his victim, baring the vulnerable part of their neck
sensuously caressing the vein then savagely sinking his teeth
into their willing offering of flesh is an iconic image.  HOT!

Biting is its own fetish , done to degrees from gentle nibbles to hard
chomps. However, gnawing away at your partner’s neck or body –
even with sharp prosthetic fangs – will not gain you the result you desire. All it
will do is bruise them and your jaw. If the bite is your kink, by all means
administer the traditional sex blood love mark – a hickey. For those
who desire access and fantasy to neck biting, this is the way I suggest
you begin. It can be highly erotic and energetically connected. Plus
leaves lovely reminders of your scene.
Play the fantasy up as much as you like. I’ve done a whole role
play scene where I am Vampire Mistress and my client is my helpless
victim. Tying him down to my table, I then slowly strip his garments
away to expose his vulnerable flesh which I then draw blood to the
surface. You can imagine the rest.

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Keep in mind, this seemingly innocent activity may still break skin and
you may ingest some blood. Also ingesting larger amounts of blood is
not good for the human digestive system. Even though rare meat has
some ,it is usually cooked to some degree. Raw blood from source
can upset your internal system.
If the blood ingestion is your desire, I suggest using a scalpel or
needles. Keep it to a small amount, less than pint. Think of the
medical blood draw we get when go to doctor. A vial that size.Practice safely and learn proper technique.
If the role-play is your desire, consider using fake blood for the
copious amounts. Again, do not ingest it.

7DOD has a wonderful online class on biting by Ms. Fox. You can watch it here

 Cutting (Piquerism)

For all my cuttings also known as Piquerism , I use a sterile, single use scalpel. As it is a medical
implement, it must be disposed of as such.
My main warning with cutting into someone’s flesh is Do not cut too deep!
Last thing you desire is a hospital trip or accidental bleed.

Cuts can look light and not bled when first done so one’s tendency is to give
another cut. Don’t. Be patient. Take the time to wait for blood to rise to
skin.

Cuttings  can scar so this possibility should be discussed beforehand.

Make sure you have safety equipment close at hand to staunch
possible bleeds.

Cutting into my slave’s flesh for blood play

Blood draws/drains

Blood drains would be the most reminiscent of the traditional vampire drinking of blood. I would not suggest this for a casual session or one-time client.

I develop an intimate connection with all my “blood dolls” or donors. It is a willing offering -not a forced or taken one.

An activity I would consider at the higher end of risk. STD and infections are a big risk here. To engage in blood drains and draws safely, you will need to take a venipuncture class.

I will not go into details here on how to do so as its its own class. I prefer those pros interested in it go to a med professional class that includes certification. No more than a pint!

Think on when you go to get your blood drawn. Blood draws, also known as phlebotomy is how we obtain the blood draws/drains.

Needle pricks & punctures Small amounts usually from needles and pinpricks. A great way to begin with blood ingestion, drawing or smears.

If you have ever cut your finger, you know you can get what appears to be an incredible amount just from this small opening.

Many people start here with a small drop to taste. If blood art is your desire, the drips and cuts from scalpels and needles can allow you the ability to finger paint safely.

Always monitor your amount. Anytime your donor/partner feels woozy, dizzy, lightheaded or faint – immediately stop, stance the bleeding and administer first aid.

Blood draws is also used to draw a small amount used in ritual, connection and amulets. Blood bonding between partners can be a special passage, a commitment of one’s relationship.

Be aware anytime you puncture the skin with needle you could end up with
a blood blister especially on cock and balls. This may scare some clients
and compromise them. Do not drain a blood blister, it will subside on own.

If you would like to preserve the blood into an item to wear, there are ones
for sale on Etsy and other sites that will provide directions on how to make the blood inert yet fluid.

Practical Components Overview

1.  Choose the component that will best work with your intent and
goals. Vampire Play doesn’t have to involve actual blood. It can just be the dark fantasy you enjoy.

2.Blood play especially with energetic components does not
preclude logical thought. The key practical ingredient of most protection is an energy
shield. Guard your energy; it can be taken from you.

3. Decide where you stand on your vampire fetishism. Is it the
fantasy, the aesthetic that get you off? The dark clothes, make-up?

4. Be aware anytime you puncture the skin with needle you could
end up with a blood blister especially on cock and balls. This may
scare some clients and compromise them. Do not drain a blood blister, it will drain on its own.

5. Hypnotism can be a competent of the fetish – playing off the vampire entrancing their prey with their penetrating gaze. Removing all will to resist.

This would be a good component skill to add to your vampire play if  you desire. Remember CONSENT is key!

 6. Combine sex with your blood play if your dynamic is sexual. One of my hottest nights
was fucking my partner while drawing blood runes on them
from the numerous small cuttings and needles I had done on them prior.

7.Menstrual blood- even more ritualistic and intimate. Also  lends itself to other types of play such as degradation, empowerment and humiliation.

I hope you enjoyed this blog on one of my favorite types of play. I would love to hear your thoughts or engage with you in session for this type of play. My email is here.

                                                    I love supporting other articles on topics I write upon that I find well-written. This one in particular I find informative. Lovense Vampire blog

To learn more of my medical fetish scene, please refer to my medical fetishism page.

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The art of sensual /sadistic tickling with BDSM play

Tickle time with my claws

Knismolagnia , commonly known as tickling, can be a fun addition to your BDSM play.  Laughter in the dungeon can be a good thing, especially to heighten the energy and connection between your play partner and you. I love having a submissive restrained to my table then tickle and tease them , hearing their laughter throughout the space. Usually my own laughter at their predicament joins in. I leave my nails long specifically so I can get deep into the tender tickle areas on the body. There can be assumptions that tickling is a light activity to engage in, but quite the contrary. I have had subs hyperventilate from the excitement of a heavy tickling, even one pass out. In all play, one should cover possible physical limitations or concerns that may impact a scene. Tickling requires one to delve deeper back into  possible memories of the activity that might affect the scene. Many of us recall being tickling by siblings, parents or other persons in our childhood. For some, these memories can create triggers that need to be acknowledged and discussed PRIOR to engaging in a tickle scene. There should always be a prior discussion that includes emotional history with scenes. In my intake interviews for play, I always ask if someone is ticklish. If the answer is yes, I always ask a secondary question of how they react to it. For many, it is a hard limit and negative trigger. Others enjoy its cathartic benefits immensely. Before you reach to tickle someone, you should know how he or she might react to it. You do not want to disrespect boundaries just because of an assumption.

While any activity we engage in can cause an adverse reaction based on memories, it is much more likely with tickling because of our societal norm of engaging in it at young ages. Fortunately this pattern has been changing in current times..Tickling can be one of the earliest personal touches  we may receive from another human. Think on how often a baby has heard “Coochy coo” while being tickled lightly on feet, tummy or chin? Think back to your childhood. Can you remember an incidence of tickling? Perhaps a family relative or sibling? Neighborhood kids who either you tickled or you were tickled by? It can be a very traumatic experience especially if we were very young, or boundaries not respect due to familial/societal environment. So when approaching it as an adult play activity, it can cause those feelings to reoccur. For some, the tickling becomes  erotic, awakening the senses and providing an endorphin rush. For others, it can arise anger, fear or hurt. One needs to tread lightly when beginning this type of play.

Restrained for tickling

Two paths a tickle scene can take: sensual or torturous. In tickling, the people being tickled (often referred to as ticklees,those administering are the ticklers) can allow themselves the release of total control. They do not have to think about the activity (in fact cognitive functioning drops when being tickled) nor generate or create the sensation. Just react and feel. This freedom is one big draw to tickling. If someone is new to tickling scenes, I suggest beginning with sensual. One can always heighten the intensity of tickling as scene progresses. Digging in hard right away without warning can send ticklee into negative space, cause an injury or get the tickler kicked or punched if the ticklee is not secured down or free to move around. Our initial reaction to being tickled is to move away from the sensation and/or push the tickler away. Ticklers must be aware of body position when tickling. Environment can cause injuries.If in a vanilla setting, look around to see what may cause injury if scene gets aggressive. Lamps, candles, table legs and tops, glassware, etc can all be a hazard. In a dungeon setting, same applies. When someone is on one of my equipment pieces, I need to make sure they can’t fall off or strain a muscle if tied down. I also want to make sure the restraining pieces are strong enough for heavy thrashing,otherwise injury can happen AND I may be replacing ripped/broken equipment. I’ve been bonked in the head before when a cuff got loose because of sub’s wiggling.

Psychologically , it can be an escape from stress, analytical thinking and responsibilities. High protocol slaves and submissives can place service aside for the moment and just breathe.If I am intensely tickling my slave, I can not be asking them highly cognitive questions at same time. Well I can for my amusement as the answers are sure to be amusing. If you are the D in the D/s relationship, you need to make sure your expectations of your sub during a tickle scene are realistic.  They may swear, yell, kick , thrash at you.  Discuss this beforehand so you both are on same page. it would be unethical to  punish a slave for a breech of protocol while being intensely tickled. Many people shut down part of cognition when engaged thusly. Poor taste to punish one because of that. For a more in depth psychological explanation, I suggest this Tickling Tips article.

Tickling is also one of those activities that we can engage in anywhere, any time and not generate unwarranted attention, if done in moderation and consensually. I can administer a light tickle to a sub’s neck while out to dinner. A small poke and wiggle with my fingers to their side while out. Ive even made submissives sit silently in a movie theater while i mercilessly tickle the side closest to me. Punishment if they squeal.  It does not require nudity or huge set-up and/or equipment.

Within scene, it can be combined with pain to create a wonderfully intense reaction.The highs and lows of intensity are one thing that attracts me to tickling. I can have a sub’s senses heighten due to other sensation including pain, then administer a light tickle to a foot or stomach as I move around them. Keep in mind, this is not for everyone. I only engage this way with those I know and play with regularly. I would not desire to take a sub out of subspace and relaxation by an unwarranted tickle or touch. Psychology Today has a great article here about why we may like being tickled.

Leather glove tickle

    How our bodies respond to being tickled:

• Endorphin rush

• Temperature change – Hot or Cold

• External senses dulled

• Analytical thinking temporarily ceases

• Heightened responses , possibly similar to fear

Rapid breathing

                                                             This a good article for understanding the science behind the tickle response.

Advice for body safety with tickling:

You want to take into consideration where you will be tickling. Ask your ticklee where they are most ticklish, if there are any areas to avoid, how intense do they desire. Tickling can leave marks, scratches and bruises. If in a prodomme session, make sure sub is aware and consents to the possibility of marks. Otherwise , wear gloves or use implements to minimize mark risk.

Learn the body’s erogenous zones.  I always tell my subs their entire body is my plaything so no area is off limits unless negotiated. Always respect limits.

Breathing is the key component to managing a tickling scene, both in how our bodies respond to it and possible complications.

Always have a safe word. Keep in mind, in a tickle scene ,the ticklee may not be able to speak coherently. Provide an alternative safe gesture such a a ball drop, toe wiggle, hand wave.

Main physical concerns when engaged in a tickle scene:

Thrashing, Squirming : Sometimes the ticklee likes to fight against being tickled. It is a natural instinct to  move away from being tickled.The struggle can be part of the attraction.

Strain or bruising of muscles; Thrashing around can possibly cause strain on muscles or bruising if the person is restrained tightly and fighting against them.

Bruised  or scratched skin – make sure to discuss prior to tickling. If you are using nails or sharp items to tickle, you can cut, leave scratches or draw blood. Be clear about his possibility before play.

Hyper ventilation – lightheartedness even fainting may occur if the ticklee gets very excited. Watch their breathing and take a break if need. Help them refocus on slow, deep yoga breathes to return to normal state.

Desensitization – I find with many types of sensation play, the nerve endings , skin and tissue mat become unresponsive to the administered sensation. It s the body;s way of telling you enough is enough. Discontinue the  sensation until a state of normalcy has returned.

           Three main types of tickling:

               Soft : what we most associate with tickling, light touching, fur, brushes, feathers, light touches

                                                                      Hard : pressure points, acupressure, digging in, fingernails

                                                                         Vibrational: vibrators, electricity, any thing that goes buzz!

                                                                                               Tickling to orgasm:

                                              Denial-Ruined – I have used tickling to deny a sub an orgasm. Right before the moment of climax, I will tickle them thus redirecting the body sensations

 Heighten –  While sexual pressure is building, administer light or hard tickling touch to increase arousal. Apply then remove- a form of tickle edging. I do a hard tickle with my nails  right before climax. All the synapses are firing, giving one hell of a release.

Tickling as therapy:

Tickling can be very therapeutic, assisting us in solving childhood issues, learning to relax and disengaging our brains. It allows one to feel life in the now and not worry about tomorrow. However, it is nor should be a replacement for actual therapy.

                          An unexpected tickle in scene/sex can trigger bad/good memories that may halt activity and need to be discussed. The signals can be confusing within tickle scene as many ticklees will scream, cry, fight and try to escape. Make sure a clear safe word or gesture has been preset and all involved partners are aware of what it is.

                                                                                                                                          Devious Devices

       Your own body – nails, hair, breath

Feathers in general

Owl or Eagle feathers

Fur

Hairbrushes- anything with a bristle

Vibrators

Paint brushes

                                                                                 Pot scrubbers

                                                                                  Dental tools

                                                                                  Fake flowers and shrubs

One of my favorite tickling site for tips is Tickling Tips. I particularly like the Games page.The endurance one is a favorite of mine. I challenge the ticklee to outlast my administrations.They receive a  Reward if do, punishment if fails!

I like adding sensory deprivation to a tickle scene. Removing another sense will heighten the tickling touch. Try a blindfold, hood or straitjacket if focusing on lower body. As mentioned before,        bondage can help keep ticklee in position and increase their enjoyment. I love binding the legs, leaving the feet vulnerable to my tickles.

All set to be tickled

Remember you can add humiliation or embarrassment  play in. Consensually delve into those past experiences and tickle memories. For those who want to experience tickling but  have yet to take the leap, consider combining it with their other kinks. Touch is the playground of adults. Have fun with it.

If you’re a ticklee who desires to be tickled, or a novice that would like to try it, fill out my session application.  I would love to create an intense ,fun tickle session between us. Both my Saint Louis and Chicago spaces are well equipped to keep you safe while we get our tickle on!

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Chicago Mistress’s New and Improved  Website

Hello! Welcome to my first major Chicago Mistress website update in 10 years. I am very excited to share my new look and updated information with you. It has been far too long since a fresh look!

The changes and new protocol within the site will let you discover if we are a good match for sessioning. The updated protocol reflects my experience and skill over my 25+ years as a Professional Dominatrix. It will help you assess if we would enjoy playing together plus inform you of what I desire and enjoy. My main kink is control but you can learn about my specialties here.

Desire to learn more about me overall – what motivates my Dominance, the type of submissive I enjoy, then read my About page.

Chicago Prodomme in her dungeon

Some of the wonderful additions besides updated images of your Mistress are:

Did you know I have a podcast?

FEMME DOMME Mystique podcast episodes :

Did you know I have a podcast focused on the Female Dominance power dynamic? It has been around for 10 years and can be found on multiple platforms including Spotify , Iheart radio ,Youtube , Audible

It has some wonderful interviews with fellow Dominatrices and lifestyle kinksters including Ava Zhang, Miranda Middleton AKA The Bondage Mistress and Queen Ariana Chevalier of NYC Rubber studio fame.

Episodes also include Mistress’s rants on topics which she feels need to be discussed and latest trends in kink. One of my favorite episodes is on 50 Shades of Grey when it came out.

Of course you can listen to ALL the episodes right here on my Femme Domme Mystique Podcast page!

Other Features you will now find on site:

NEW session intake form – updated for those serious in serving. I have fine-tuned my protocol to better suit Myself and you in determining our chemistry. I seek those who sincerely desire to play and engage in our mutual kinks. One does not need to be submissive to see me but you do need to be respectful of my role.

I will not switch or submit – not in my nature. We can enjoy a relaxed fetish focused time together but do not disrespect me.

BLOG on topics ranging from my mindset as a Professional and lifestyle Dominatrix to my thoughts on specific kinks and fetishes.

. For over 20 years I have been educating on kin, fetishism and BDSM. My writings on my blog include class lectures such as my Vamp Play class I just did for 7DOD

NEWS page covering my adventures as a prodomme, the events I attend , my touring and travel dates

REVIEWS from years past to present. These will enable you to get a sense of how I play with my submissives in my scenes

LOOK page for those who desire to gaze upon Mistress’s elegance and Dominance. For completely current images , you will need to visit my Loyalfans, Sextpanther and social Media pages

Details on both my  Kink Studio spaces – Chicago and Saint Louis

Off site ways to find more about Mistress

I like to support other lifestyle and kink sites that I find engaging, authentic and education – or just carry cool stuff!

Not sure if you know but your Mistress is a published author with articles on sites such as Fearless Press and Kinkly

Also I wrote a book on one of my favorite means of control – Chastity.  It can be hard to find but last I checked  “The Toybag Guide to Chastity” can be found on BooksaMillion

Shiny Mistress in her Saint Louis bdsm studio

My educational videos can be found via Kink Academy. For the good stuff though you will need to visit my Clips4sale store. While I am not a video clip Mistress, I do enjoy filming with friends and doing instructional clips. You my also purchase my clips on my Loyalfans

I know there are some of you out there who just desire the devotional material for you to worship so for you, there is my photo gallery.

Not enough pictures for you? Well then you must tribute for more via Loyalfans, Niteflirt or Sextpanther.

I do hope you enjoy the new website while learning more about Me. Read the reviews, peruse the blog and oogle the pictures – then when ready fill out my contact form to visit the real thing!

Take the step! Schedule your session here

Desire a conversation to see if we are compatible? I have a number of platforms available for us to chat and see if we are well-matched

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also known as Podophilia

Millions of dollars every year is spent on adorning one small area of the human body: the foot. One can find such things as jewelry, nail polish, silky stockings, sexy hosiery and all types of foot wear for their feet. Why so much attention focused on one small part of us? Women spend millions of dollars on pedicures each year. Shoe designers are some of the highest paid fashion industry individuals. Brand name can be everything; just hearing a particular shoe line can make a foot fetishist gush. Think about some of the high end ones such as Stuart Wietzman, Dolce & Gabbana , Jimmy Choo, or Fluevog.My favorite brand is Louboutin. As a self proclaimed shoe and boot whore, I love the look of my feet when encased in anything from sensuous lace topped stockings to slinky open toe sandals. Let’s not get me started on leather boots, or for that matter any type of boots.Some of my favorite boot brands are Fernando Berlin, Arollo,Saint Laurent, and the goth standard – Dr. Martens!  I prefer to be on the receiving end of foot worship. I am what you can call a reverse foot fetishist. I do not have a desire to worship another’s feet, but to have mine worshiped. I love dangling my sexy shoe off my toes, teasing a kneeling male who is longing to kiss and suck my delicate toes (an activity referred to as shrimping).

The love of the foot has long been part of our world’s culture.  A classic example is the foot binding of the East. Women were crippled for their society’s concept of beautiful feet. A woman’s feet were bound at a young age, the bones compressing and preventing further growth. Women with the smallest feet were of the highest value. The religious concept of foot washing continues into modern times  in the custom of kissing the Pope’s feet in reverence. Desire to learn more on the history? Refer to this good article. Psychologically, for some worshipers, foot fetishism may have some bearing on the superiority of recipient. To worship feet, one must usually kneel down. A kneeling partner kissing your feet can be a huge turn on. Kissing the feet of one who is royalty or saintly has been a long practice worldwide. Jesus had his feet washed by Mary Magdalene. Throughout our long human history, there are numerous examples of foot reverence.

Mistress feet in sexy sandals

Foot fetishism is  technically defined as fixation or desire for the foot or footwear. The sexual attraction can be focused on a specific part such as toes, heel or arch. Some love bare feet, others enjoy hosiery. Similar to any other preference, foot worship is a highly individualistic activity. Nude toenails, painted toenails, anklets, toe rings – all can be the focus of the foot fetishist. Shape may play a factor. High arches or long toes may be the deciding quality in what arouses the worshiper. Activities may be the thing, such as pedicures, massaging or placing a sexy pump on the foot. Odor and state of cleanliness are included in possible worship triggers. Some like dirty, smelly feet; others like freshly washed. Whatever the turn on trigger is, it will focus around the shape and adornment of the feet. . While widely sexual in nature, it can also be aesthetic. Admiration for a well-turned foot encased in a lovely shoe or boot is something many of us appreciate it. Shoe fetishism can be considered its own category if the foot is not the necessary object, bu the shoe is. The classic shoe fetishist one might remember is Imelda Marcos. Shoe Fetishism will be discussed in another blog.

Every once in awhile, a foot fetish horror story will come across social media formats. There are horror stories of men attacking women to suck their toes, or stealing the shoes. Some people have even been arrested for harassment. Extreme examples portrayed in the media can cloud the way an activity is perceived. As with any fetish or alternative lifestyle activity, consent is the most important factor. If your fetish is engaged without the other person’s consent, that is a violation of that person’s space. It can be difficult to understand the desire for the foot for some. Many are turned off by feet, or think they are unattractive. Large majorities of people do not like their feet to be touched. If you are in a relationship with a foot fetishist, understanding their desire to kiss, suck and lick your feet can be difficult. It can be even more so if you are one who does not like having their feet touched.

Foot worship is often considered a woman-centrist activity.  While the pop culture portrays it this way, foot fetishism crosses gender roles. The love of women’s feet tends to be what everyone thinks of when we think of foot fetish. The love of feet crosses gender roles. There is a large male-male foot fetish culture.The gay leather culture has a big sub-set of foot fetishists, focused on scent and boots. Female to female, female to male, non-binary -the focus of foot worship is not limited by gender or sexual identity. Foot sex play can be a safe –sex alternative. When pregnancy or STDs wanted to be avoided, foot sex was an alternative.

Foot play and sex comes in many forms. Our feet are extremely sensitive, full of nerve endings. Playing footsie is a wonderful foreplay activity that can be added to your sexual repertoire. Foot massages are one of the safest forms of connecting via touch with a new partner. It’s a good icebreaker. Tickling is it’s own topic, but foot-ees can be ticklers who solely enjoy the activity of tickling feet. A foot lover may focus on the whole foot or one part such as arch, toes or ankles. I have a client that loves to kiss and nibble at my high arch. Another who delights when I stuff all my toes in hi mouth to gag him. When discussing the topic, ask for specifics and offer them.

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If you feel your partner might be a foot worshiper, there are some ways to figure it out.

Signs you might be dating a foot fetishist:

• They compliment your shoes or pedicure all the time.
• They will take you shoe shopping, and it will take hours as you try on every pair in the store!
• When relaxing, hands will stroll to the feet.
• Concern over foot maintenance will be brought up. Pedicures will be discussed, and polish color might even be suggested
• Foot massages may be offered but gentle caresses are more likely. The foot worshiper wants to do just that, worship. They revere the foot so giving a good foot rub can obscure that goal.

Some helpful guidelines for those who desire to engage in foot worship:

• Do not force your desire on those you encounter. Enjoying a sexy foot in public is all well in good, but crossing personal space boundaries is not.
• Be polite when complimenting a person on their feet. Go for “You have lovely shoes” instead of “WOW, I wanna suck those toes!”
• Respect the ticklishness of the worship-ee. If asked to avoid a certain area, do so.
• Take a No as a No.

If your partner is a foot fetishist, some helpful hints:

• Do not laugh when they try to let you know what turns them on. For some reason, this association tends to make people giggle. It can cause the foot worshiper to retreat.
• Find out what exactly they enjoy about foot worship. Do they like toes, arches or the whole foot? Communication on what they like will enable you to assess if you can indulge them.
• If you cannot stand having your feet touched, be honest up front. Do not pretend to enjoy it just to please the foot-ee. It will backfire down the road.
• If you truly want to engage in the fetish but can’t due to ticklish or squirming feet, consider encasing them in hosiery or footwear. It will lessen the sensitivity of your feet and still allow the foot-ee to worship.
• Foot play can be fun, lighthearted and sensual. Think on the classic pin-ups slowing taking off a silk stocking. Tease, control and entice.

The key to dealing with any fetishism is to be honest with it up front – not later. Communicate with your partner(s). Hiding your fetishism will only backfire down the road. Unwillingness to listen to your partner(s) will under-mind the honesty and integrity of your connection. If you are uncomfortable with the whole feet thing, tell him/her so. They will thank you for listening to them, and being honest. Enjoying the interaction together is key to any sexual activity. If there is none, why do it? Do not force yourself to do something you do not enjoy. You do not have to enjoy it as much as the fetishist but if it helps you connect and further your passion AND you enjoy it, then let those toes fly free!

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